5 Ways to Shift Your Mindset to Embrace Your Uniqueness



I've said/written it before, and I probably will hundreds of times more -- each of us are unique beings with our own likes and dislikes. God made us this way on purpose! We are more than our names, our ages, our zip codes, our bank accounts, our jobs, etc. Below are 5 easy things you can do to intentionally figure out what makes you, you!

1. Take time to learn yourself and fill your cup

If I were to ask you today, "What do you do - for yourself - that makes you happy?" Note that I didn't ask what you do for others. Pouring into others is great, and we'll touch on that later in this post, but it's also important that you know yourself.
 
One of my favorite sayings is this -- "You can't pour from an empty cup." I remind myself of this often! How can I expect to help others when I can't even help myself? The answer is simple. I can't. At least not without a wear on my mental and physical health. (been there, done that, got the t-shirt to prove it)

2. Use what you've learned about yourself as motivation

Once you've found things about yourself that you like to do -- whether that's listening to music, reading, writing, learning, dancing, singing, crafting, _________ [fill in the blank] -- use that to reward yourself! Had a hard day at work? Treat yourself! Completed a goal or task you've been working hard on? Treat yourself!
 
It's important to realize that the idea of "treating yourself" doesn't have to cost money. It could simply be sleeping in one day, taking a night off from washing the dishes, even binge-watching a series.

3. Give yourself some grace

Think about the ways you talk to yourself (even if just in your head) when things don't go your way. Now think about the ways that you talk to your best friend if they're having a bad day. See the difference?
 
Be as thoughtful to yourself as you would a friend, or even a stranger! Once you know yourself, you'll find it easier to balance self-motivation with being kind to yourself.

4. Use your gifts to help others

You can't pour from an empty cup, right? Well once you've cultivated ways to fill your cup, discover ways to build up others! Even a gesture as small as a smile or a heartfelt "thank you" at the drive-thru window can be impactful to someone having a difficult day.
 
There is fulfillment in looking outside of ourselves to spread goodness in the world. It's a blessing to be a blessing.

5. Accept the ways in which you're different

Once you know yourself, you won't be content trying to be something or someone you're not. Why spend time following the crowd when you can go further -- and be more fulfilled -- by being true to yourself!

Circling back to learning about yourself, remember to also consider what you like and why. For example, what types of music do you like to listen to? What types of movies do you like to watch? What type of jewelry do you like to wear?

When I started designing jewelry for family and friends, I'd ask a simple entry question of "what type of jewelry do you like," which was often met with a head tilt and blank stare. It's not often that someone sits and thinks about that, right? That was motivation for me to help guide that process of not just buying jewelry, but women discovering likes (and even dislikes) that they didn't know existed!
 

What are some ways that you fill your cup? How intentional have you been keeping it full enough?

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Talk soon,

Bryttani Graddick

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